Kalliyam

Few of my very good friends or family have more than a passing interest in my passions.     I would worry about them if they did.     Or else I might be identifying with, say, a professional sports team and calling them “our” team.     Okay, no harm, no foul.     Maybe.     But what I’m talking about is  personal  stuff, the stuff that   you  want that makes up your  tastes .     If you have any tastes then it’s likely you also have conflicts of interest with yourself. I made sure that my children did not follow in my career footsteps and both gratefully found life-partners more sane, sober, and unlike me than I could have imagined.  They’re all very good people.  Your children grow up, if you let their mistakes be their own and not yours, then they leave and will get on with being human without you having made the matter of living harder.  Don't make anyone else's life harder, not if you can help it.  So do help when you can, love ceaselessly but don’t expect anyone to care ab